“I felt like I was in a constant fog”, “There was this deep sense of sorrow in me all of the time”, “Looking at my beautiful baby, all I could feel was numbness.” These are just three examples of what Postnatal Depression has felt like for some mothers. Weeks beyond the normal phase of Baby Blues, some mothers still grapple with intense emotional difficulties – ranging from deep sadness and anxiety to anger, or an utter numbness.
While a period of ‘weepiness’ is almost inevitable after childbirth due to the rebalancing of hormones going from pregnant to no longer pregnant, it’s crucial to know when these typical symptoms of the ‘Baby Blues’ might be signs of the more serious condition known as postnatal depression (PND).
Understanding the signs of PND can make all the difference in seeking timely help and support. Let’s delve into the distinctions and the three major signs that might indicate you’re facing postnatal depression.
Most new mums encounter the ‘Baby Blues’ after giving birth. This condition typically begins a few days post-delivery and can last up to two weeks. It’s characterised by mood swings, feelings of sadness, irritability, or anxiety. These feelings are often attributed to the dramatic hormonal changes and the sheer exhaustion of childbirth. While they can be distressing, these symptoms usually subside on their own.
PND, however, is more severe and long-lasting than the ‘baby blues’. It can commence any time within the baby’s first year and can persist for months if not addressed. PND can also manifest as antenatal depression during pregnancy. It’s essential to be vigilant about the symptoms and seek support if you identify with the following signs:
Feeling down occasionally is one thing, but if you’re experiencing persistent feelings of sadness or hopelessness, it’s a cause for concern. You might find it hard to enjoy anything, even the activities you once loved. If this low mood lasts for more than two weeks and doesn’t show signs of lifting, it could indicate PND.
All parents bond with their babies differently. It might not always be the ‘love at first sight’ scenario portrayed in media. However, if you consistently feel indifferent or hostile towards your newborn, it could be a sign of PND. It’s vital to remember that this isn’t a reflection of your capability as a parent; it’s a symptom of a treatable condition.
If you’re avoiding connections – be it avoiding conversations with your partner, declining visits from friends, or not attending mum groups that you used to enjoy – you could be experiencing PND. Social withdrawal often stems from feelings of shame, guilt, or the overwhelming belief that you’re not a ‘good enough’ mum.
If you resonate with any of these signs, it’s paramount to reach out for professional help. Confide in your GP, health visitor, or a mental health professional. They can provide an accurate diagnosis and guide you towards the right support and treatments, be it therapy, counselling, or medication.
Moreover, share your feelings with trusted friends or family. Their understanding and support can be invaluable during this time.
Motherhood is a journey, and like all journeys, it has its ups and downs. If you’re grappling with feelings that go beyond the ‘baby blues’, it’s essential to recognise that help is available. Postnatal depression is treatable, and with the right support, you can regain your well-being and enjoy the myriad joys of parenthood.
If you or someone you know might be experiencing symptoms of PND, don’t hesitate to reach out. Your mental health is crucial, not just for you but for your family too.